We’ve got to be clear on the language that is okay for our child to say. If you want her to not say “dang it” and “shoot” when you tell her “no” then you’ve got to model the appropriate responses.
My mother taught me early on, children are novices. They need to be taught everything! We simply can’t leave their behavior to chance. If they are doing something you do not like, guess what? You can reteach them a new way to response to replace the negative behavior pattern.
A child left to himself brings his mother shame
– Proverbs 29:15
For me, if I tell my child “not right now” and they reply with a big sigh, kick their legs in the air, and turn away from me in a huff…we’ve got a problem. That response is not the lovely plant I’m trying to grow and that weed has got to come up!
So, we’ve got to identify the right way to respond, teach that behavior. and reward it when it happens. And then, monitor it closely to make sure the response becomes a habit that sticks at home and in public.
I hope this post was helpful to the mama who is ready to crush their goals with kids in tow.
If you’ve got some productivity tips on how to live seamlessly between motherhood and work, leave them in the comments below. I can’t wait to read your responses!
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19 responses to “Productive Parenting”
What an amazing READ!! Number 3 Teaching children the appropriate language was extremely helpful. I have a 10 year old and 8 year old boys and so often they give me the “buffs &puffs” I will definitely implement more of your methods. Thank you
Lady Dee!! This was amazing!! So many helpful and insightful tips, and I must say that I’ve used most of these tips on my daughter and nieces and nephews! Like you, my mom taught us early and I’m proud that our family has some of the most well mannered children. We get compliments all the time. Im definitely going to pass this blog on to mothers around me. If its ok, I can print it out and post it in my moms daycare for some of the parents there!
I love this! I think our biggest struggle is the clear response/clear directive. My older girls are constantly feeding off of each other’s actions, especially when one misbehaves and the other notices and wants to call it out, causing them to also misbehave – and the cycle continues. I think if I can find a way to be clear and concise with my directions & teach them to respond quickly in word & action, it will cut out a lot of the repetitious nagging. Sometimes I think Heaven, my eldest, has some sensory things going on. At home she often just bursts out in random yelps, is rarely still even when reading or watching a video and is constantly distracted; usually unable to follow directions without stopping to do or look at something else along the way. Thanks for writing this. I still don’t know how you do it all (other than Holy Spirit given ability) but at least I know its possible, which gives me hope for our little wild tribe haha.
WOW…This is so awesome…!!!! Lady Dee, you provided some very helpful tools and applicable techniques for new and older Moms alike. Sharing your stories and your transparency prayerfully will give more Moms the courage to seek helpful advise and not be ashamed or discouraged if their children struggle in different areas or act out,…it’s not the end, your encouraging testimonies offer hope, tools and solutions. Thank you for sharing and look forward to more good reads…..
Wonderful tips and great inspiration! Spoke with you at choir rehearsal on Tuesday. Was not aware of your blog but glad I know of it now. I’m being helpful grandma these days and really appreciate your tips on how to keep everyone in the family happy and healthy!
What a great story. Some many valuable tips and information…and let’s not even talk about the beautiful pictures. Such happy babies. This can be and should be a book, a story and/or article in the “Children” magazine. Great job Sis.
Thank you for your time and dedication to you blog. It has blessed me! Some of the tips were helpful reminders and the rest were great tips to implement at this moment! Faision is definitely a sensory seeker. I try to have fidgets and a coloring assignment for him when I know we will be sitting for a while. Coloring gets his focus…until the sheets are finished! Lol
Hey, Tiffany! Thanks for dropping by and commenting. I love to hear other parents’ experiences with their kids’ sensory needs. It’s definitely something we should be talking about more to shift how we manage behavior. 🙌
Dear dee, I think of you a lot since the concert at bay view last Saturday. My rule of thumb is to pray for someone if they cross my mind and you do it a lot. I hope you have contacted padre pio and my Jesus by now. You certainly have an adventurous life and I wish you lived closer. God bless you and your family. Fondly, peace and prayers. Jeannemarie bordoli.
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